Ok. I'm going to try to be serious on this topic (even though admittedly, it will be extremely difficult to do!)
I saw the trailer for yet another church reality show and HOLLERED!
I HAD to write on it.
All I will say is this:
1) The organized church system has tried to assimilate within popular culture for so long, they have tried to be 'relevant' so much, that they are now the laughing stock of the world. And the sad part is that she has done this to HERSELF. It wasn't the devil. It isn't an attack. The Word says you reap what you sow; and the church system for YEARS has sown nothing but deception and evil. Well, now it's time to REAP what she has sown.
2) I KNEW that once this reality show kick the church was on gained momentum, that it would only get MORE and MORE REAL. I mean, come ON. I have SEEN some stuff in ministry, in church when I was in there. I just shook my head and said to myself, 'Do they REALLY want to show the world the REAL DEAL that's going on in these churches?' I say its a good thing; that way more and more people will SHUN church and religion than be drawn TO IT.
3) The church folk need to leave these women ALONE! They are the fruit of the so-called men in the church, religious men. The good ol' boys clubs that is resident in these churches. This is what happens when you force a bunch of first ladies/pastors wives to marry gay men or DL men who masquerade as pastors. This is what happens when you allow men to infect women with HIV in the church. OR when you allow these men to sleep with children, steal from their congregants, lie, cheat and bamboozle the people so that THEY can appear to be prosperous. THIS is what happens when you got a bunch of religious nuts and flakes ta-ta-ta-ing and babbering all over the church talking about they are 'delivering' the very ones THEY bind up!
I told y'all....HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE!
You can't EVEN tell me that after looking at the above trailer that you actually believe that YOUR church is a place of healing! When you KNOW that the VERY same stuff is going down with YOUR pastor and first lady!
It's really not funny though...it's actually really sad.
A lot of people are going to rail on these ladies, call them every name in the BOOK for doing this show...but I say LEAVE THESE LADIES ALONE!
THESE LADIES ARE A PRODUCT OF A DOUBLE-STANDARD INSTITUTE! (as the artist formerly and perhaps presently known as Tonex sings in his video 'Going Away.'
Meaning...these ladies were brought up in church. Probably raped, abused, molested, turned out, etc....RIGHT in church.
They were groomed for 'First Lady-ship' since girls. Were told that good lil girls are supposed to want to grow up and become 'first ladies.'
All while pastor was shoving himself in every orifice in her body....(YES, I said it!)
So is it any WONDER when these girls grow up, that they turn into ^^^^THIS?
We are so quick to call WOMEN 'ratchet,' but we don't take the TIME to investigate nor have empathy and understand WHAT or WHO made her that way!
YES, it is obvious. THESE ladies ARE STILL suffering from CHURCH HURT.
And that hurt IS manifesting in their behavior.
Some of them are mentally and emotionally, perhaps even spiritually, wounded.
And the WORSE thing they can do is go to ANOTHER CHURCH to seek 'deliverance' or 'healing.'
I've been there. (But hey...You don't see me on no mechanical horse with pink hair either! But I ain't mad at her!)
There is this R & B artist, L'il Mo. A couple of years or so back I wrote a blog article on her questioning her 'ratchetness' in Hold Up, L'il Mo! I'm Confused!
A few weeks ago, she tweeted something that helped me understand her:
She, too, is a product of a double standard institute as well.
Her godfather is none other than the Prince of Gospel himself, Pastor John P. Kee. I am sure she had some upbringing 'in the church.'
And-on her own words-she admits that it was all in vain...all that 'church.'
She may be a little raunchy....but I owe her an apology.
I understand her and these other ladies in Preacher's Exes. I AM a preacher's ex MYSELF. I grew up in church. Church leaders raping and turning me out....and then covering up. Down low preachers wanting to marry me. I saw more gay men in the church than I EVER did in the world. I've seen A LOT.
I thank GOD that HE led me OUT of church and my 'deliverance' came through more saner means...perhaps unconventional.
I empathize with these ladies...and I know there are PLENTY MORE ladies that go thru the same stuff. They are just too ashamed, or too embarrassed to say anything.
THERE IS HEALING FOR YOU LADIES!!!!!!
Purge how you need to purge. If it's in writing, WRITE. If you need to do reality programming, do it. If you need professional help, SEEK it. It won't come in conventional means....BELIEVE THAT!
As to the rest of the world....
LEAVE THESE LADIES ALONE!
If they want to share their stories with the world, LET THEM. They are BOUND to come out anyways!
The more they tell it, the more they are no longer BOUND TO IT. I wish them well. Healing. Wholeness. OUTSIDE OF CHURCH, of course.
NO MORE protecting idiocy and ish in the church....
As long as y'all keep enabling this junk, there will be MORE and MORE church 'reality' shows EXPOSING the STUPIDITY and PAIN that is RAMPANT in the churches!
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